Tuesday, 31 December 2013

Before saying goodbye 2013 - A New Year poem


Before saying goodbye to 2013...
Let's cherish what it has given us.
May be a sharp pain that may take a lifetime to immerse;
May be a bouncing happiness that still makes you smile;
May be a stone tragedy that's hard on you to allow moving on further;
May be a supple love that is enough to surpass all the feelings;
May be an eternal friendship holding you in every sinking and bouncing moment;
May be a teary loss that you will always regret;
May be a stuffy gain that will lure you throughout the coming year;
May be a vivid vision of where you will land after a long journey;
But whatever it is, embrace 2013 once again with all your love and passion,
As it has taught you with so many feelings,
so much learning, mischief, so many laughter and so much tears;
But the most important is...
It never left you even for a moment while so many others might have done.
A loving goodbye to 2013,
and a welcome ode for 2014...





Saturday, 28 December 2013

Things to pack from 2013

As this year is ready to pack things up while making a generous willing space for another fresh year, there are always so many memories attached to this year. And not just memories but also some gem like learning, mind boggling situations, inspiring anecdotes and many more memory butterflies flying round the corner. Let's talk about the things I am packing from this year's trip and what do I expect myself to do in the next one.

  1. Take things slowly. Let things unfold on their own.
  2. Live life as tomorrow never comes.
  3. Kill your enemies by turning them into friends.
  4. Love your partner often.
  5. Pursuit a challenging hobby.
  6. Make new goals and before you do that, make sure last year goals are ticked on the list.
  7. Travel often. Learn new culture and blend in easily.
  8. Read a lot. Make books your best friends.
  9. Get inspired and let someone inspired.
  10. Develop passion and dedication for your work. These will make the journey more enjoyable and less exhaustive.
  11. Reveal a secret. Don't be like an inflated balloon anymore.
  12. Get a mentor. Or better, be someone else's.
  13. Be curious, polite and gentle, little taciturn at times, and little rough too. All kind of emotions work favorably if used for the right moment.
  14. Spend more time with family. Give them also the opportune moment to say, "You are everything for us too".
  15. Learn the trend of new year. Blend in with the crowd but stand unique with your own style.
  16. Wear your stand. If you do this, a simple t-shirt will look fab on you.
  17. Do not try to impress people. More you try, less you will accomplish. Try to leave a lasting impression.
  18. 'When meet a celebrity, give them dignity and respect. They most deserve it.' I read these lines in a wonderful book recently.

Thursday, 26 December 2013

Guest post by Maya from It's Never Too Late

Hello everyone! I am Maya and delighted to write a guest post on my best friend Priyanka's wonderful blog titled as Pages From My Life.

First of all, I wish you all Merry Christmas. I also hope the upcoming year adds new glint to your hopes, success and to all those things that you wish to accomplish. Happy New Year.

Just day before yesterday I got back in Bangalore, the city I so deeply love and where my home resides. Over Christmas greetings, Priyanka asked me to write a guest post on her blog. I am delighted to talk to all of you. Priyanka has told me how much love so many people have showered on me in a very less span of time. I am delighted and thankful for your blessings and wishes. Please keep them coming on my way :)

As requested by Priyanka, I am not supposed to reveal much about me or my life but there are few fronts on which I am free to talk about. As you all know, I am an Indian Institute of Kanpur (IITK) alumnus. During my studies, I came across Rajat (who is my husband now). Things then went on smoothly and we both got jobs in a wonderful city called Bangalore. If I tell you one secret {don't tell it to Priyanka. She will kill me (wink)}, I had never imagined that the guy whom I was meeting for the first time would become my husband. In fact, we both took many classes together but never happened to talk to each other. But life has its own magical ways. It sprinkles some unexpected seasonings on our ways to make every turn relishing. And today when I am married to him, I realize marrying him was the best decision in my life. Rajat is always supportive, loving, caring and amiable towards me. I still see my best friend in him.

Then life took a swift turn and our daughter, Sejal, stepped into our busy lives. The moment she arrived, the whole world blurred past ourselves. Nothing mattered to us but her. Becoming parents would be so much livelier, we had never imagined. Now Sejal is five year old and I feel like she is indeed the naughtiest kid in town. She hardly listens to us. Always busy with her dolls and doll houses. When I chide her, she finds her father on rescue. Rajat dotes on her so much that my wishes often sit back. He madly love her. He just can never imagine his life without his little daughter. She will always be the love of our lives. She is like a sun around which our life planets are revolving in happy orbits.

Degree from a prestigious organization like IIT Kanpur, job and home in Silicon city of India, Bangalore, married to the best friend and proud parent of a sweet kid; such life easily resembles to a fairy tale. Right? Yes. It does. For me too. My life was perfect with little natural ups and downs. Life otherwise was flawless; like a pleasant never ending journey. Rajat and I both had woven our future dreams with so much love and care. Nothing could dash it down. Nothing.

Or so we believed.

Monday, 23 December 2013

Enjoy life - A one-way drive

If there is one thing unchangeable, that is the change itself. It never changes it nature.

Like the below picture says it all, life is a one way drive and this drive happens for only once. So why not making this one lifetime drive a happy and pleasant one in its truest sense? It is not hard to do so though. You just need few things like the best companion, a good car that runs on pretty good tyres and a stock of food to survive.




When travelling with someone who promises to be at your side at every turn and every fall, the ride automatically becomes a lot easier. No worries driving on the back seat, no stress heating up the engine and certainly no annoying people bursting your tyres out. If you are one lucky person to enjoy your life ride with such ease and envy, it would be highly recommended if you enjoy every moment too. No two moments are alike. One can be happy and the other can be happier or uglier but not the two moment you will find similar. 

They say life is too short to enjoy. I say, life is long enough to steal handful precious moments. But truly speaking, it doesn't matter what anyone says. The thing that matters is, what do you think, how you take on your life and how much better driving you know. I have a good car but in earlier driving days, I have generously crafted few scratches and one blow (first car comes with no guarantee you see). Technically one can say I am a terrible driver. But I am saying I am not. Why? Because I now come with experience. Once a mistake is done and analyzed, there is no point in repeating it. I drive good now. 

The same way life goes on. If you know a particular thing has the power to hurt you, take a detour and find something that can cheer you up. When you want pizza but you get a burger instead, pack it anyway. When hunger cramps hit you, the same burger tastes much better than pizza. When you bump on a hurdle, learn to take life slowly and get over the thing. In short, life is a one-way drive. Either get a fabulous car and the best company to enjoy the ride or make sure you have a parallel road on which you can hop on anytime to make the ride better and hassle free.


Tuesday, 17 December 2013

Living with a writer! Read the precautions...

Amuse yourself but do staple these instructions in mind when living or meeting with a writer or an author. By the way, I happen to be one. (Chuckle)







Friday, 13 December 2013

Start a day with thinking something good!

When you wake up in the morning, what is that one thing that you cherish the most? What is that which makes you happy and ensures you a great day ahead? Ponder over it for sometime and if you didn't have to think much over the answer, you are the one lucky person.

If I talk about myself, I think on how the day is going to be! But a good night sleep rejuvenates me a lot. These days it is extremely hard to get a luxurious sleep as I am little tensed and very much excited about my upcoming novel It's Never Too Late. Whether I am tired or not, I can not sleep for a long time. I know it's just a phase and will soon my tossed out of the window.

Let not get digressed from the topic and talk about the first best thing you see in the morning to make you happy for the rest of the day. Sun rays piercing through the windows, birds chirping, and light noises are somewhat capable to soothe your sleepy nerves. But do not rely much on the outside things to make you happy. Think about something that can cheer you up instantly and holds the power to keep you happy and motivated through out the day. For example -


  • Seeing a friend
  • A lovely quote from someone (like I read it yesterday - Picasso did not wait to become Picasso to play like Picasso by Robin Sharma. Inspiring? Isn't it?)
  • Shopping (I love it)
  • Cooking a delicious meal for family or just for yourself
  • Spending time with hobbies like travelling, reading, painting, guitar or violin and what not
  • Getting a membership of a sports club or readers club or something similar to this
  • Taking out time to connect with friends and family members
  • Meditation or exercise
  • A picnic or a movie with loved ones or if everyone is busy, you are enough for your company

                                                                  


And the list goes on... It totally depends on YOU how you want your day to go. If you think about something good, you will feel good and if you feel good, your day will rock. 

So when you wake up this following weekend, think something good. It will make you a happy person and a happy person is lovable to all.


Wednesday, 4 December 2013

How to deal with a nagging neighbour

If you have a nagging fighting-maniac neighbor next door then you can easily relate to my pain and if this neighbor happens to have a dog barking day in and day out, you can feel the loads of irritation coming my way any time and every time.

Neighbors...they are always imagined as a friendly next door people who not only share their space with you but also comes at rescue when you need them. Good neighbors become your another family out of your own. Having been blessed with a good friendly neighborhood is a bliss; something that we always wish for when we move somewhere.




But...our wish comes crashing when we encounter a troublesome recalcitrant people living next door. Before you realize what wrong you have done to them, they will come rushing only to drag you into a fight. The fight majorly consists of verbal accuses and high pitched voice insults. Whether you are innocent or merely a witness to someone else's fight, such neighbors always drag the rest of the word with them, including YOU.

Then how to deal with them? How to keep a distance from such people? How to avoid these petty but very serious unpleasant anecdotes in day to day life? Help is not far away only if you are willing to look for it. Let's share the points that can save you from such frustrating people i.e. nagging neighbors.

1. Find the source of their agitation. The source may lie at your court sometimes. You may have been keeping your television volume quiet high or your homely kids keep playing at their porch area all the time. Reason could be anything. May be it is others who are provoking their counteractive nature. Whatever the source is, search and try to tap it as much as you can.

2. Talk. This may sound little uneasy because people who are habitual of nagging all the time hardly opt for talking and that too, sane. If the problem persists for a long time, try to talk to them. Invite them over to your place or look for the suitable time when they are relaxing at theirs. Target is, catch them when they are in calm mode and then proceed to talk. Talk with polite words and do not jump straight onto the point. First start with normal chatting and then gradually come to the point. Your choice of words and the overall language should not sound like you are accusing them for something. Just say about your discomfort and how it is negatively affecting your daily life. Talk but with caution. That's the take away here.

3. Do not gossip. People come good and bad. There is no more saying in it. If your neighbor is nagging, try to not gossip about it to others, especially with the other neighbors. Words may reach from your mouth to their ears eventually. Think ahead and do not gossip much about it.

Tuesday, 3 December 2013

Learn to say NO

'Yes' is the word that is often considered as a very positive gesture. When someone needs a help, saying yes can probably be the best way to please. Where agreeing to do a task for others may crown you with a very positive and friendly person, right there can saying its rival 'No' makes you look like an unfriendly and cold individual? Does this two letter word 'No' has the power to label you as the person devoid of feelings towards others?

The answer may again fall on the lap of its opposite but I don't think that saying no to something can make you look all of a sudden ugly to someone. For me, it is utmost essential to consider your stand first because I believe in -

Your stand decides your direction.

If you think helping someone is good, it is indeed but up to an extent only. If someone just wants to nag you into something out of no reason or wants to keep you busy to fulfill his own tasks, or worse, if he really do not care whether you are in the position of helping, it is certainly best and wise to take your stand with a firm no. If you are not comfortable with helping someone, it is absolutely okay to deny it rather than doing it halfheartedly or with annoyance.

LEARN TO SAY NO as it will show that you are not available every time at everyone's dispense. LEARN TO SAY NO because you don't want another regret added into your kitty for doing something that doesn't suits you. Saying no is as important and as respectable as saying yes. So learn to take your stand and say no when the moment demands for it.

But where saying yes without even a hint of smile can please someone, there saying no with your best manner possibly evoke harsh feelings. Say no but with politeness and with a smile. If possible and required, explain why you are denying to help. Explanation will slice the further expectations and thus, will save the relationship you share with that needy person.

Sometimes it becomes tricky to say no. For example, if someone older to you asking for it and you are not at all able to help, it becomes hard to refuse out of respect. In such cases, try your best to help the person but if you still can not, express your discomfort with sharing the correct reason and try for someone else who can do the job. Choose appropriate words while denying because sometimes, older people fail to look beyond the curtain and may consider you irresponsible. Listening to the sincere words in polite manner enhance the chances of being understood correct.

You can not please everybody but if you are not pleased doing something, do not even try to please others. It may jeopardize you seriously. So be happy, keep an open heart and learn to take your stand.



Monday, 2 December 2013

The Sunday mirage

What a relaxing day yesterday (Sunday) was! The day was over in a blink of an eye. It started with rush in the morning. There was annual day function in my kid's school and we had to drop him at the venue by sharp 8 am. The tragedy happened with me on this note. The previous night I set the alarm at morning 6 o'clock but I had forgotten that the alarm was only from Mondays to Saturdays. No Sundays. I forgot to change the day and that's why it failed to jolt me up in the morning. When I opened my eye lids, it was already 7.30! Oh gosh!! With double jolt, I got up hurriedly and instructed Sumit to get Ashmit wake up and ready. I washed my face and I ran into the kitchen. I did some speedy cooking and packed snacks and two water bottles in Ashmit's function bag (extra snacks and water bottles were the instructions we had received from the school). Finally when it was 5 to 8, Sumit went off to drop him. After coming back, we also got ready in haste and left for the venue. The function was scheduled to start by 9.30 and by the time we reached to the auditorium (where the function was held), it was jammed packed with promiscuous number of parents and guests. We sighed and somehow occupied two seats in the rear side of the crowd.

Finally the function commenced and our kid did really well. He was in a skit named Wisdom of Solomon and in a dance called The Fisherman's Frolic. We were ecstatic to see him performing so well in both. Finally we left the venue after the function finished off on the success note. We picked our lunch from outside and headed towards home. We had lunch and then we all three rest-seeking musketeers settled down on the bed to play the game Cluedo. Sumit bought it just yesterday and after rummaging through its long pages of rules, we finally got the clues how to play it and started playing. Gradually we picked the ropes and the game turned out to be a very interesting one. We played for twice and in between, we kept teasing each other, fought over the facts and giggled whenever the other person lost. All in all, it was wonderful to spend time with my family, as usual.

Then we, the fatigued family, wrapped up the game and slept wherever we were. It was a very relaxing to catch the nap after the hasty day. We all got up in the evening and then enjoyed the game again for thrice in which I won for twice, had delicious dinner with tea, talked and laughed like the happiest people on this earth and in the meanwhile, I finished reading one Hindi novel (Yes! I read Hindi novels too. I love them). There upon, we are now finally settled on the bed to sleep.

Friday, 29 November 2013

It's Never Too Late Cover

I am delighted to present my book It's Never Too Late's cover here. It gives me immense pleasure as to finally reveal it. Hope my readers will love it as much as I do and will look forward to read this. The book will hit the bookstores and online forums (like Flipkart, Amazon etc.) very soon. Just have a little more patience and the fruit will be delicious.

Million of thanks goes to my publisher Srishti Publications and cover designer Wasim Helal. They have put enormous efforts to bring it on board.

Front cover




End to end cover


Don't forget to drop in your comment below about how much it appeals you :)

Thursday, 28 November 2013

Welcome to the writers' world

How easy is for the people to humiliate others? How well thought and a well planned strategy it can be for others to suck all the positivism that you have? How hurt you can be when someone accuses you of stealing their ideas while they have always been your own, as close as your heart is? I am just amazed at it and not only amazed but shocked...extremely shocked. I feel to go to such people and teach a lesson so that they don't get even a slightest of a chance to do it with others.

I am on the verge of release of my book. Things are finally settling down and a little more time and bang! I will be an author and I am so happy about it but last evening...last evening I encountered some hippocrates who better mind to ruin other's peace and dignity. Some people suddenly started to accuse me for stealing their ideas of their cover design and the title. I just couldn't believe it. My work is sincerely authentic and I have worked so hard on it. And not just me but also my cover designer and publishers have put their best efforts in to this. But I guess, that's another harsh way of learning.

Thankfully my publishers are with me and things got sorted out easily. I am doing much better now. If I ask why few people do it then I'd be mad of course. People have this tendency to suck up to other's work and make it a publicity stunt...a cheap one on that note. If your work is genuine and you believe in your work then how come you require such sort of stunts to add up to your sales? I have always believed in my work. I know that my novel It's Never Too Late will do positive and people will simply love it. I have faith in my work but I am not like those people who start faking on others and gaining their friends' and colleagues' respects and sympathies out of the selfishness and mockery of human feelings. I am just not like that.

Night was ruined. I couldn't sleep because of those worrisome pills such people gave me. Morning was also kind of screwed up but I have 24x7 support of my husband so thankfully I am doing a lot better now. I get to know couple of things in the field of writing like book titles can not be copyrighted and no one can raise an issue about it but if someone does, he or she may face legal issues for harassing others as well. I am relaxed and that's really wonderful. But learning process was painful. I seriously wish for such people to get the habit of minding their own businesses and leaving the rest of the planet with peace and ethics.

I am smiling now and a smile is all needed to move on with silly unpleasant things in my life. All I can say to me is -

Welcome to the writers' world, baby!






Friday, 15 November 2013

Smart 5 minute breaks from work

Half n hour ago I have returned from outside. I roamed for almost four hours but still I feel fresh. I feel good and rejuvenated. I went outside with my kid and we had lunch at KFC. Unfortunately, McDonald was closed for some reasons. But KFC is also delicious. Then I did shopping. I bought more for my husband and my kid. You may amaze at it but I love to shop for my family. Anyways, it was altogether a very nice refreshing experience or say, a well deserved break from my hectic schedule.

Now that I am relaxing on my sofa and writing this post, it certainly feels good. There is also an amusing smile on my face. Aren't we all deserving to have some quick breaks from our rounds the clock staggering schedule? Don't we all need some solutions that can entice freshness as well as spark a level of achievement also? Yes! We do. We all do need such short breaks.

Read below to get acquainted with such pauses that not only keeps a check on your crumpling mood but also gives you a fresh taste of living a good life.


Tea reminds me of a break.
Take a break.

Listen songs


Best thing I guess. Mood is off, ran into a miff, fought with spouse, ugly boss, no promotion, kids tension, car accident or whatever is wrong with you, just take your gadget out and listen some soothing songs. Music helps you relax your stressed muscles and nerves. If not gadgets, croon then. Singing is also a good break.


Gossip


I know that in some of my previous articles I have vividly stated that gossiping is bad for health and career too. Today I am saying, go for gossips. Gossips incite your curiosity and hence, they fill you in with energy. When you listen something that wraps your attention spirally, your mind naturally forgets about your dull mood. It gets distracted and that's exactly the goal we want to achieve here. But be careful while gossiping. Do gossips but in a good way, not to hurt someone. Words have their own fly overs and from which point they can travel to which destination, you can never control. So do some positive healthy gossips.

Thursday, 14 November 2013

You do what you want to do!

Today is rather a dull day for me. Why? No reasons actually. I am allowed to feel all the turbulence of life like you all do. I slept and couldn't write today except for this post. But that's okay for me. Not everyday is equal, I believe.

So in the evening and out of boredom, I switched on TV and started to flip through the channels in the anticipation of I might get something of my interest to watch. Fortunately I got a good movie to watch on the channel Romedy Now. This channel shows good soft movies that are fusion of Romance plus Comedy. The movie I stumbled upon was Waitress. It was already started nonetheless I started watching through the middle. After sometime, I realized it was a good movie indeed.

The lead actress, named Jenna, was in an extremely unhappy marriage and wanted to get rid of her husband but she didn't have enough courage to do so. She also happened to be a wonderful Pie maker. Her handmade pies were loved by everyone. She was sort of star in this pie making section. When I started watching the movie, Jenna was going through her pregnancy and much to her chagrin added to her failed marriage, she was having an affair with her doctor, Dr. Pommettar (I guess the spelling is right according to the movie). The actor that played doctor is really handsome. I like him a lot even though I don't know his real name. Anyways, things started to roll up and down. Jenna wanted to run away from her husband and to win The US Pie contest at the same time. Twist was, if she didn't win the contest, she wouldn't be having the money to run her life. Interestingly, Jenna didn't want baby at all but she couldn't abort it just like that. But as life never fails to give you some happy surprises occasionally, things worked out in her favor. Not just the world became more beautiful than ever for her when she saw her child for the very first time and that gave her enough courage to ask for divorce to her nuts husband but also, she received a generous gift of stupendous money from one of her customers (The customer was old and he was a fan of her pies).

Sunday, 10 November 2013

A glimpse of my novel "It's Never Too Late"

My debut novel It's Never Too Late is about a woman named Maya who is lovely and bold at the same time. She loves challenges and believes in giving her best. Rajat, is her husband who loves her madly. He can do anything for her. When he is with her, he feels on cloud 9.

In short, Maya and Rajat are a perfect couple with all those little perks and imperfections of any relationship. But they are happy with each other; more than they could ever be with anyone else. Rajat loves his Maya so much that he has decided to show his love through a poem; a poem made exclusively by HIM for his lovely wife, his better half, Maya. Catch an eye shot below ::


Click to get a big view

Thursday, 7 November 2013

DIY when life gives you lemons

When life becomes gruesome, what to do? When you are dumped by the very unexpected turns of situations, which direction should you head for? In other words, what to do when life gives you lemons while you have a sweet tooth? I can easily take an oath on - take the help from your friends or family or both but what if no one is around? Or worse, if everyone is around but their presence merely equals a physical sting? Every eye and ear is sealed and shut for your tears, cries and mourns. You are soaked fully in displeasing emotions that you can't handle entirely on your own and to make the situation worse, people around you don't bother to check on you either.

Very bitter lemons.  Right? If I have learnt anything in life then it is that life is everything but easy. Life is like a parasite that totally, absolutely and helplessly lives on your perspective. It eats only what you feed it. If you feed it positivism, enthusiasm and smiles, it looks good and vice versa. When no one is around, it is still stuck with you. It sucks during such phase. But even at that time, your very same perspective comes at your rescue. Your DIY tool, Do-It-Yourself strategy can save you from wrecking havoc onto your own self!

DIY when life gives you some raw lemons is not easy to plan but nothing is impossible. Few quick fixes and some life saving glues can work wondrously, only if you know what to use when and how. Follow the procession below to deal with hardest phases of life.


                            happy                                                         



Talk. Make conversations.

I have faced some really tough times in my life and during those moments I wanted someone, anyone with whom I could talk on anything. Whether, cartoons, crockery, shoes, home, internet, even bed bugs were fine with me. I craved to babble on anything. I just wanted to TALK and when ever I got it, it had helped me up to a considerable extent.

So the moral of the story is, don't lock yourself within the four walls. Come out of your self built inferno and make conversations. Talking can spare the moments from hanging idle and thus, curdling onto your thoughts like noxious germs.

Read.

Only a reader can jellify what it is to read. For me, book reading is a haven where I lock myself and travel with many new people to newer places; places where I crave to go; places where I'd like to go again and again. Sometimes I find questions that churn my head but many a times I find solutions to some of the problems. 

Reading opens up the jammed locks of your mind. It oils the window sills so that they can open to a new greener world that consists good stuffs like hope. Taking a sneak peek of other's world through books brings you myriad of engaging things. When no one is around you, don't somersault only for a physical presence. Pick a book as your miraculous DIY. It will give you exactly what you want and sometimes more than you have ever expected.

Tuesday, 5 November 2013

Mornin' when I couldn't sleep

Yesterday I made it official that I am An Author now. Official because I have revealed it now otherwise the process was being churned since a while and on Diwali occasion, I found it's time to tell my little secret. The response I have received is tremendous; very unexpected. My Author page and novel page It's Never Too Late both have managed to gain 53 and 42 Likes respectively in less than just one day!!! It is huge and so very flattering. Yes! I expected good response but the whooping numbers have certainly bowled me over.

Thank you everyone, for visiting my pages and considering them worth to Like and sharing the same on your timelines. I DO realize the huge expectations now laid on my shoulders. I will do my best to comply with them. Thank you once again!

Yesterday was majorly nailed with rounds of nail biting and frequent Facebook visits. I and my husband Sumit both worked till late night. We were thrilled to see the response to my pages actually. Then we slept after talking to my parents and wishing them Happy Diwali. I slept soundly but somehow I got up in wee hours. When I opened my eyes, it was still dark outside. I gathered it was either late night or early morning. I tried to sleep but the train of thoughts didn't allow me so. For say about initial ten minutes, I didn't bother to check on time  and tried to sleep but later I had to give up at my attempts. I picked my mobile and checked on time. It was 5. Really early morning. Then I opened my facebook account much like a child who has received a jar full of chocolates and can't help it to count all of'em over and over again. I noticed there were few more likes on my pages and some comments too were hanging loosely on the board. I gave away couple of comments. It was crazy for me doing so in such odd hours. I have never done it before. But I guess, history will repeat itself for the next few months, if not less.

Monday, 4 November 2013

I am An Author now!!

And it's official. I am An Author now and my novel is It's Never Too Late. As much as I am happy to announce it to the world today, I feel like jumping with joy. I am very happy to finally have a ground for my own where I can travel with another huge identity.





So here are the details ::

My Facebook Fan page :: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorPriyankaBaranwal

My Novel It's Never Too Late :: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Its-Never-Too-Late/313940985416701

Go, visit the pages and kindly hit LIKE and SHARE as much as you can.

The journey till this point has been quiet and quite interesting. I will tell it here on the day of my book launch. Till then, you have to wait. But I assure you, the waiting will be worth, if not the least. :)

Other details will be revealed soon. Till then, Enjoy and wish me luck my dear readers. I need it :)

Sunday, 3 November 2013

Happy diwali wishes

Happy Diwali to all my readers. I wish ya'll loads of happiness, success and prosperity this year and every year.

And Happy New Year too in advance.


                               

Wednesday, 30 October 2013

Glam up for the festive party

Festivals are one of the biggest potpourris of culture, colors, fashion, cuisines and loads of memories and they sure are swiftly ringing around. But what's a festival without being celebrated with family or friends? In my terms, I like crowd on festivals; crowd stringed with familiar loving people with whom the festival celebration becomes a lot more fun.

Diwali is just a few days to go and since we are away from our families, hence we have thought of celebrating Diwali with our good friends. The evening will be jammed pack with delectable cuisines, Rangoli designs and cracker firings. But to plan for a festive party is bit tricky. You have to keep check on everything like what can be organized as well as what may go wrong. And you also have to look fab at the same time.

For a festive party and that eye catching look, munch on the tips below...

                                              

Prepare for the party

You already know the date of the festival and now you need to make some skillful preparations. Prima facie, make a list of guests. Decide how many of'em are coming. Be careful with this taking the size of party place into the consideration. Your guest planning should not suffocate the place. Inclusion of children needs space so that they can play without creating a fuss.

The party and number of guests should be in accordance so that people can roam freely as well as you can get some spare space to decorate the party as well.

Thursday, 24 October 2013

Things that go unheard between *you two*

Communication sums up the major part of any relationship but when it comes to partners, it plays a vital role. We get to know about each other likes, dislikes, personality perks and certain pointers through the language. But if you stress on what I have just said, you will notice that I mentioned language plays a vital role but not a complete role. Language does not constitute the entire happening communication between you two. It only makes for around 40% of your communication, per se. So what makes up for the rest of the 60% to build a relationship? What fills in the gap?

The 60% thing that fills in the gap is, the non-verbal communication. It envelops those gestures or actions which are not dependent solely on the language but majorly to the ability to get that untyped message deciphered; more of your ability to read between the lines. Few things that we like can be signaled with a thumbs up gesture while dislikes can be prompt with hesitant nod. If you don't get the right message on right time, the relationship can see the downside. Fear not. By placing little efforts, you can certainly understand those unspoken unheard things of your relationships that can keep ringing the bells of your love song forever.


We will talk in second person reference (like he or she) through the article.

1. Understand those gestures

When your partner nod hesitantly or thinks before saying Yes or No, it IS the cue. He may not be feeling comfortable to follow with what you have to say. But instead of making YOU uncomfortable, he catches up with a disagreed heart. When you ask something, be attentive towards the body language of your partner. When an obvious answer comes with a delay note, it's time to revise your question.

Saturday, 19 October 2013

A wonderful opportunity in a Spying Agency

Few days back I got a very alluring job offer from a Spying Agency. Not that my resume fits the job but because this agency is run and supervised by my kid and his one neighborhood friend. Now I see your smile there. Good! You got it that it's a fun post and I am not coming to spy on YOU.

So their agency came into the existence few weeks ago and it is named A & B Co-operation Ltd. They have even put their names like agents. My kid is Agent 006 while his friend is Agent 007 (as in James Bond series. Clearly, his friend is the senior agent). Believe it or not, they have enormous range of gadgets. From binoculars to LED projector, from I.D. cards to record diary, guns and whistles, they have got everything in check. Of course their all gadgets are their own toys but it's admirable to see the way they have stocked them up. If you ask them about the person whom they are spying on and other obvious questions, they won't tell. Their every mission is a super secret and being dealt with utmost sincerity.

Few days back when they both were going out on one of their missions (let's call my kid A and his friend B), I asked them on whom they are going to spy today. After much hesitation and with a sincere touch on my face (that I was not kidding), B told me they were going to spy on the construction workers (there is a construction work going on in my neighborhood). I got amazed and somehow managed to suppress my laugh. I appreciated them for their exquisite choice on the mission and send them off with good wishes. But before leaving, somehow B asked me whether I would like to join their agency. I was surprised and darted some questions, just out of the curiosity. The conversation happened further is given below ::

Thursday, 17 October 2013

Things to avoid in friendship


Lots of people want to ride with you in limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down ~ Oprah Winfrey

How true is the above statement! True friends are those who will walk beside you even if you are stripped of luxuries. True friends will love you as YOU ARE. True friends are also your best critiques. People blessed with such friendship are lucky and happier than those who travel on the opposite track. I am also blessed to have such a friend in my life who has always been there whenever I needed her. She is beautiful not only from her outlook but also from her heart. She is a good listener and reflects a warm stature. I love being with her and enjoy her company. I have in fact written a post on her. We have been friends since say, fifteen years. Yes! It's true. Our blissful friendship has seen fifteen bitter sweet seasons of life and I am sure will see the rest too. 

But I am not the sole reason of our friendship. I know the efforts she had put in the initial years of our friendship to not let this bridge between us break down. I completely acknowledge and respect the ways she thinks about me. Being honest, if she hadn't placed efforts to hold the one end of our friendship, we would never have traveled this far. So a bit from my experience and knowledge on the subject, I am emphasizing today on what not to do in friendship so that it can last forever.

Best pals fill that odd gap

 Stop bitching

If you are a back biter or you do bitching about your friend, you are not friends for sure. As clear as that. Moving on...

Tuesday, 15 October 2013

10 efficacious tips to get rid of a bad habit

Just few days ago, I motivated you to recumbent on your hobby or to cultivate a new one in my post The best buddy of your lone time :: Your Hobbies and today, I am discussing how to get rid of those habits that irks you or may be others as well which means, bad habits.

We all are a big reservoir of habits. Some are good and some are bad. While accepting a good trait is far easier to enjoy, right there a bad habit is tougher to throw away. Bad habits are the fruits of human foibles and talking about them not only includes serious quirks like smoking, drinking, bullying etc. but summons to little irksome idiosyncrasies too like nail biting, cracking knuckles, making a sound while eating, tapping ground or desk incessantly and what not.

I agree with you that letting go off a bad habit is not easy but I will also assert one fact on you that, trying over and over again can eventually culminate into a success. Join the chit chat below to get aware of the eminent reasons of suffering with bad habit/s and some tips along to shoo them away.

Reasons of bad habits

Having a bad habit is not a big deal, however, not trying to get rid of it is certainly a BIG deal! There may be few reasons behind suffering with one or more bad habits.


  • Upbringing - Whether your childhood years were spent happily or in a wrong companionship.
  • Education - How much value you give to education.
  • Social circle - What sort of friends do you have? How you spend time? Which sites you use? and so on...
  • Personal grooming - How much attention you give your personality to groom it; whether you are ignorant towards your bad habit.
  • Being unaware - When you are really not aware of any of your bad habits.


Ways to shoo bad habit away

Sometimes Right isn't always right
Take the left turn and dump that bad habit

Sunday, 13 October 2013

How do I celebrate Dushehra at home

Happy and a very prosperous Dushehra to all my readers. It is our one of the main festivals; the symbol of the good winning over the bad; the rise of the god over the evil. It holds a very special place for Indians as this festival is commemorated for the Goddess Durga. That is why it is also known as Durga Puja (The worship of the goddess Durga).

                                                     

This day usually we cook delicacies and go out in the evening to meet and greet our friends and relatives. We share sweets. Then we all head towards numerous Puja pandals (stalls) where the idols of the goddess Durga are established. In those stalls, above (in the picture) or similar to this idols can be found easily. We go there, perform the worship and finally get Prasaad (offerings). We all enjoy those delicious Prasaads. There is always a lot of gung ho on this auspicious occasion.

Saturday, 12 October 2013

The best buddy of your lone time :: Your Hobbies

What's one common thing among reading, writing, music, travelling, Aerobics/Yoga, net surfing, watching TV series like TVD or FRIENDS, and learning guitar? Well...don't mess with your hair. These are all my hobbies and you will find me hanging out with them very often. *Hobby* This certain human trait I have chosen today to discuss our particular characteristics that defines, entails and says so much about our personalities.

Hobbies brings the person out of you that is hidden somewhere; probably afraid of this out world or from the people manipulating you all the time. When I sit with my hobby, I seriously enjoy myself. In those moments I simply forget everything. No stress, no creased forehead and strictly no tears. I enjoy myself and just be ME. I relish every emotion. And that's exactly you want with your lone time buddy : the squeeze of merriment, glee and yes...a genuine smile on the face.

Enjoy your hobby with positive and happy people
                                         
I am usually ridiculously busy during the most of the day time. I am so busy that I hardly dare myself to switch on the TV. or do something else that can amuse me but I don't complain. Hobbies do not need to be done all the time but yes! they do need attention; not as a patient but as a doctor; to release you from all the negativism and ill aura. They can cure the bad things sprouting in your mind and soul. 


There are several benefits of enjoying your hobbies like ::

  • They help you to grow your network
  • Stress deduction
  • Releasing happy hormones
  • Leaves you with eustress (Eustress is a positive stress that makes you feel excited about doing something; something that you love) 
  • Keeps you physically and mentally fit
  • Improve memory and self-esteem
  • Help you out with sleeping better, and 
  • They enhance your immune system. 

Monday, 7 October 2013

A quiz for the kids

Hi there! It is Monday and after doing my work, now I am settled down to write a post after so many days. I feel bad though for not being here but writing a post is not a child task you should know. You just can not stop by and write anything on any matter. You have got to be something interesting to drop in here that can intrigue the readers as well as satisfy the creator inside you, ergo, make your blog a very subtle portal to watch out for. I guess that was a long sentence. Anyways, moving on...

So today the electricity board kept playing hide and seek with us. This evening when there was no power, I got my kid and his neighborhood friend to play an appealing quiz show. When I told them to sit on the chairs because we were going to play a quiz show, they thought it would be like 'Who wants to be a millionaire' kinda quiz but I said NO upfront. Rather, I told them the quiz is about your life, your choices, your likes and dislikes and a little more about your individual personalities. They got excited and curious on the spot. After churning my head a bit, I asked below questions. The end result will be shared there where they deserve to be shared i.e. at the end of this post. So happy reading.

Q 1. Who is your favorite person?

Q 2. Your favorite color?

Q 3. How will you deal with a bully? suppose you are in the school and going to drink water. A bully comes along your way and starts speaking ill to you and hurting you. What will you do in such situation?

Q 4. What qualities do you have? Talk about both, the good ones and the bad ones.

Q 5. One wish that you want for your each parent?

Q 6. Which qualities do you dislike about your parents and why?

Q 7. Now which qualities that you adore in your parents?

Q 8. How do you see yourself when you are grown up? Which career do you want to pursue?

Q 9. The biggest learning in your life? It can be more than one.

Thursday, 26 September 2013

Badminton and old days

Today I played Badminton, my favorite outdoor game, after so many years. It is so strange that we seldom indulge in our favorite things though we always long to!

Anyways, today I played badminton after our dinner. It felt wonderful to play. I played with my husband and my kid, Ashmit. Ashmit's one neighborhood friend also played with us. While playing, I fell for a reverie. I got to reminisce those golden old days when we all siblings (including my relatives' kids) were small and carefree and used to gather at my native in every summer vacation. We all then made pairs for badminton and then started playing on our big terrace. We all played and if some other pair's shuttle cock banged in our area, we started playing with that, ignoring ours. It used to be a lot of fun. I missed all of my brothers and sisters especially my elder brother, Rohit bhaiya, who is tall and reflexive enough to stand at one point and play shots by just sticking to his spot while we all kept running here and there to hit the shuttle cock. We all had played, laughed and cursed each other for playing better and shared countless high fives at the end of each game.

When someone couldn't get to play either because of the lack of the rackets or another player, he or she had to wait for the turn. We had set a fair rule for the game that who'd drop the shuttle cock for ten times, she or he would be out and the person waiting would get to play. And not just terrace games, we also loved to play Business (it was then known as 'Vyapaar'), Ludo, Snakes and ladders, video games and so many others to count on. We always fell for fighting. "I'll play" or "It's my turn now" or "No! It's my turn now" or "You played na? Now your turn will come after five players" and so on. How much fun filled those days were!!

Nonetheless those days are gone but their memories are still branded in my mind as fresh as winter breeze. But I will make it a sure point that now I will play my favorite outdoor game everyday. If not everyday then at least seven days in a week ;).

But I can't help myself thinking. Why we grew old? Why we got so many silly responsibilities? and why we have to be mature? I wish we all could run again as we did in our childhood years; I wish we all could gather and enjoy ourselves; I wish we all could be children again! But alas! those days are gone, never to come back ever.

But good old days are always good to cherish. I still long to share the same frenzy with my siblings what I used to. But now everyone is busy in their lives, earning money or taking care of their respective families. However, my longing is still there, breathing somewhere secretly.


No Regrets Just A Happy You



                             



Wednesday, 25 September 2013

Did I do anything wrong?

Sumit has joined a new company after working for five years in the previous one. I thought to gift him a tablet (gadget, not the medicine) as in to say best wishes for his new venture. I searched like a maniac and asked few people in the process. Finally after juggling with many options, I settled down for Samsung. I got a nice Samsung tablet in my budget (Okay! Not in my budget as I had to pay a little extra but the reaction with which Sumit spurted out on receiving it made it worth going extravagant) and ordered it online. He loves to read news all the time and checking on his email accounts and Facebook and so many other sites. His laptop has stopped working and I doubt it will ever be fine again. Also, he hasn't updated his handset yet, I thought to solve his predicament by giving him a nice gadget. Hence, I bought a tablet.

When he returned from his office on the first day and I gifted him the tab, he went all shocked and amused. He couldn't believe I was giving him such a nice gift. Anyway, it's my habit to keep gifting people (only to those whom I love). He was so happy that he hugged me and said thank you. He looked like a small kid who had received his first award without putting an iota of effort in it (I did all the frantic online research and went to the electronic shops while he sat comfortably in his AC office ;)). I was so delighted to see him happy. Then he went busy with the tab to understand its functions.

Since that day whenever he is at home, he keeps working on his tab. I even tease him by saying that someone has gotten ill. That is why he is with a *tablet* all the time but his attitude drains my efforts to catch his attention. He will look up at me, throw a terse smile and if I am privileged, I'd receive a grin and then again he will go back to his tab screen, searching for I-don't-know-what.

Tuesday, 24 September 2013

Parents are wrong too sometimes

Parents often think they are right; that what they do is always correct on the moral basis; and they teach right attitude to their children but...today happened one thing that put me off guard. I was forced to think about what I have said to my son only to repent later.

This morning when Sumit was going to drop off Ashmit to his school bus, I told Sumit to talk Ashmit about being recalcitrant after coming back from school. He doesn't listen to me easily and creates much nuisance. Sumit said okay and then they left. Thereupon, I got busy in tiding up my kitchen.

After few minutes when Sumit returned, he told me that he had discussed what I had said to him.

Sumit, "One thing I'd like to draw your attention towards is, never ever said Ashmit that you will also not listen to him in return to his tantrums".

I was washing my hands. I asked, "Why? What happened?"

Sumit, "Because I asked Ashmit that why you doesn't listen to your mumma after coming back from the school. He said that he doesn't want to"

My hands stopped as it hurt me but I didn't react much. Rather, I responded and asked why he said so.

"When I asked, he said because you keep him hungry. He doesn't like it and that is why he doesn't listen to you"

I can't describe my feelings here. I was shocked, hurt and vindicated all at the same time. As a parent, I tend to think that what I was doing was right. But here, my son had made me realize my mistake nonetheless I winced at his words.

Actually what used to happen that when Ashmit comes back from school, he simply keep throwing tantrums for a while. I keep telling him to change, wash his hands and face and then settle down for lunch but he just doesn't listen. Then I also decided to reciprocate the same. Not to teach him a lesson. Instead, to make him realize how does it feel when someone doesn't listen to you while you keep barking like a dog. When he asked for lunch, I told I'd give it later. Because you chose not to listen to me. Therefore, I have chosen the same for you. I did it for one day only.

Saturday, 21 September 2013

Plan of the decade - A half night out

It feels so wonderful that I am snuggled on my couch in this cold weather and doing one of my most favorite things : Writing. Yes! I am writing and carrying a plan of celebrating a half night out today. Half night out bole to (means) staying up till late at night but sleeping right before the sun rays knock at your door. So may be I will sleep by two or three in the morning. It has been long that I have opted for any kind of night outs but today is the day to avail and I am a curious creature about it.

So here is the plan of the decade. I will write, write and just write. May be will listen to some of my favorite songs, drink orange juice or eat one or two biscuits in the process. There are also the modicum of chances that I may fall for a ten minute shut eye but that's again, gonna be good for me. I remember the kind of night outs I used to have with my parent, sister, brother, sister-in-law and my naughty nephew. We all sit together, stay awake till 2 AM, watch horror movies and then proceed towards the kitchen to make Maggi by holding one another's hands. I become the cook. My nephew and I keep our eyes around just in case if any ghost appears behind the shelves or the window or the kitchen door. Quickly we make our late night noodles and run towards the room, without looking behind. And then the magical moment arrives for enjoying those scrumptious Maggi meal. Room light remains dim because my father sleeps (Yes! I and my sister sleep in our parent's room when we are at my native. There are many spare rooms in our house but they prefer us to sleep in their's. It feels great!). Then we all talk in hush and reminisce the horror movie scenes. We laugh hard, teasing one another. My mother chides us for staying awake till late but we ignore her. Then she too gets up and mingles in our conversation. In between, my father wakes up because of our loud noises and scolds us to sleep but again, like stubborn kids we never opt for sleep until we finish our shares of Maggi. Then we drift apart to our respective rooms. I, my sister and my nephew sleep altogether in my parent's room. My nephew is such a naughty boy that he never lets me sleep and keep posing like ghosts, only to scare me But he is a sweet kid.

Oh!! I am getting highly nostalgic and before I run into tears, let me say bbye from here and do my other writing work. See you in my next post. :)


Wednesday, 18 September 2013

End of a trail and beginning of a new journey

When you read book, you just don't peek into someone other's mind but also you travel to different places. A book takes you to entirely a new or may be an old familiar place but with an entirely new vision. And seeing a place or event/s through someone other's way is an exciting procedure plus learning endorsement too.

Also, if you are fond of books and own a library on your name (like ME), I bet you'd be the appropriate person to understand the intensity of the joy when I fetched another book. It is so exciting and so curious infused feeling to pick up a new book. It feels awesome and I go through such frenzy whenever I am about to finish the last few pages of the current novel and am about to dig into a new one. I always keep more than one fresh unread books in advance in my library. This way I get the motivation to finish a book as soon as possible and get the joy of plucking a new one.

Recently I have finished "And the mountains echoed" by Khaled Hosseini. It's a thick novel and a good read. I admit I got bored in the middle as I prefer to read slim books yet I picked it up because Khaled is well known for his writing style and story telling skills. Well, honestly speaking the book touched my heart. I found it a wonderful read and spent a quality time reading it. I visited Shadbagh, Kabul, Paris and some other places with this story, met so many new characters and munched on various daily life events merging perfectly with the story line. Overall, And the... is an interesting read.

Now I have picked up a new book named Wise and otherwise by talented and versatile Sudha Murthy. The author is the wife of Narayan Murthy, the Chairman of Infosys. The book is a short story collection, based on the author's real life experiences. I have already finished initial few chapters and they had managed to catch my attention. Stories that Sudha Murthy reminisces are honest and leaves a brimming impact. I couldn't help myself thinking about the real life characters portrayed in the stories; some larger than life and some as tiny crawling creatures on the floor. Because of short stories, I find it a relaxing read. I can read comfortably while finishing each story in ten minutes or so. Like this one, her other books also have got translated into all the major languages in India. Picking up this one after the fat And the mountains echoed has given me simple serene time.

Sudha Murthy





And the greater responsibility is...

Today I was caught by a moment. It struck me with bountiful of surprise followed by glee. I found the moment worth treasuring on my blog.

Our kid has participated in National Cyber Olympiad (NCO) and the paper is due tomorrow (on Thursday). He had already solved some of the initial chapters and was busy in completing unfolded ones.

Today I caught him surreptitiously looking for the answers on the back of the book provided. It startled me for a moment. Where I was living in an awe seeing him doing every chapter successfully and that too without consuming much time and hassle, now I could gather the reason behind all of it; behind most of his right answers. I was displeased of course. But I felt it was uttermost important to teach him the bigger responsibility and that was...to amend his mistake and to not practice again in the future.

When I caught him looking at the answer page, I interrupted right off. He didn't expect me discover his own planned clever trick. When I asked, he held his head low and admitted that he had seen some of the previous chapter's questions on the answer page. I didn't chide him nor ignored this. Rather, I asked him in a low tone whether he had realized his mistake. He said 'Yes! I know mumma that I had done wrong thing. But I won't repeat it again'. I was relaxed to hear. At least, he was sincere on this front.

I held him by his shoulders and explained, "Listen Ashmit! Committing a mistake is not a big deal. It is not a bad thing as it is the human foible. Mistakes do happen. But the deal becomes much greater if you don't realize it and not take any actions to amend it. If you have realized that you have done a mistake, you must correct it by not repeating it again. If you use your brain, you will learn more. By cheating, you will reach nowhere. Will you repeat it?"

"Yes mumma. I will not cheat on again. I will use my brain to solve the chapter but please! Don't tell this to papa. He will scold me"

I assured him that I won't but as it was an important matter for me, I had decided to talk to my husband in private about it. Anyways, Ashmit completed his chapters and learnt so many things along. He enjoyed MS Paint and learnt various tools and even drew some nice pictures on it.

When Sumit returned form his office, much to my amazement and shock, Ashmit came and admitted to his mistake. He explained how he tried to look on the answer page secretly and how I caught him doing so. He promised the same thing to his father that he will not repeat his mistake again; that he will always use his brain to solve anything.

I stood in a daze. I marveled at his courage to come upfront and accepting his doing with no fear. Sumit felt so happy that he hugged him immediately. We both appreciated Ashmit for his bold step to say the truth. 

This was the moment for us, the parent, to be proud of. 















Friday, 13 September 2013

Say YES to NO - Next Opportunity

Everything has its pros and cons and when a negative word can be infused with a positive meaning, it will be no more considered into that negative parenthesis. In the similar fashion, 'NO' has been counted as often maligned, often unpleasant word to listen.

If you want to buy something of your favorite and parents say 'NO', you start sulking inside. If you want to visit a place and the spouse says 'NO' upfront, you silently prefer to curse. If you have done an outstanding job at the workplace thinking it will steal the show but the manager spits 'NO' right at your face, you feel like killing your own manager. These all and many more examples that houses the painful word 'NO' lets you feel bad and you become a helpless creature minus someone at your rescue.

But you can now get a better thing; you can now visit a better place and you can now work far better if you take a single persistent word NO as Next Opportunity rather than no opportunity. By saying it out loud inside your head elicits the positivism; it brings happiness and energy along with it. Accepting a negative word in a positive context can turn the way of your thinking and hence, the lifestyle upside down. If someone says NO for your idea, take it as a challenge instead of feeling low inside. The moment may be calling for a better opportunity. After all, the Hollywood movie star Sylvester Stallone would never be able to build the brand of his name if he had taken all the film producers' denial as negative gestures. He had written a story and literally knocked every producer's door to make it a movie casting him in the lead role. Film producers were ready to make a movie out of his story but were equally reluctant to cast him as the Hero. But Sylvester had that concrete belief in himself and with every NO, he stepped forward, grabbed the next opportunity and turned his life over a new leaf. Every NO meant next producer (opportunity) for him and this way a highly entertaining Rambo series were made and thus a trusted brand of Stallone took the world by storm.

A brand made after myriad 'NO's

Thursday, 12 September 2013

Can a mother-in-law turn into a mother?

Recently I have been seeing advertisements of an upcoming daily soap. Usually I don't watch TV soaps except for one but in between my favorite show, comes several advertisements and the upcoming TV serial I am talking about is the one that I see during such breaks.

So the concept of the serial is quiet simple. It is, as I have gathered after watching the advertisements for few times, trying to resuscitate an archaic and proverbial quest that "Can daughter-in-laws be daughters?". The ad comprises of different women carrying the same message that why daughter-in-laws can not be treated as daughters? Some daughter-in-laws speak about their agony while some mother-in-laws speak about if they weren't treated as daughters, why should they treat their daughter-in-laws as daughters?

The topic is sensitive and fairly elaborated to talk about. I'd be dealing it on few fronts. May be in some other post I will deal with the other equally necessary facets. It's true that mother-in-laws have always been considered as violent human beings; they are considered (or mostly rumored) as heartless ladies with fire spitting mouth. Whenever she speaks, it will put daughter-in-laws (D-I-Ls) on fire i.e. she believes in ruining the lives of their D-I-Ls. I have seen many Hollywood and Bollywood movies portraying M-I-Ls as monsters. And why only movies? These days, TV serials too have proved themselves no less than big flicks. Flip to any channel, you will surely find a M-I-L portraying a vamp role in more than one daily soaps.

But I am not here to carry forward the same quest. Rather, I am here to toss the situation this time. Let's flip the coin and face the other side so that we can better understand the real face of the situation. What movies and serials show are not quite true. Please don't abide by them. There are several M-I-Ls who have proved themselves better than their D-I-Ls' own mothers.

I agree that D-I-Ls have several issues like adjusting in a new family with new family members with different tastes, the agony of leaving parents behind, dealing with the other difficulties and what not. They think they are alone at their new home. They are alone at their in-laws house. Why don't they think if they have left one mother behind, they have found a new one? Why don't they make their M-I-Ls their confidante? The preset notion of "Mother-in-law is always bad and wrong" stops them to do so. Unless you understand your mother-in-law, never ever pass such statement. Mutual understanding has everything to keep a relationship working.


Love your M-I-L and get the same in return

Tuesday, 10 September 2013

Mystified and glorified Nandhi hills

Last three days were a pack of holidays and on the morning of very first, we decided to go to Nandhi Hills. We had already visited this place and I had blogged about it too here A meet with nature :: Nadhi Hills. But this time, some of Sumit's friends were tugged along as well.

So the morning started ridiculously early. I woke up at 3AM!!! Don't ask how much effort I had to put in to get up at such wee hour. Anyways, I had bath, we all got ready and after around one hour say by 4.15, we left from our car. I drove first for the initial 30 kilometers. I tell you a secret. Whenever I drive, Sumit's heart literally jumps into his mouth. He always worry when I drive. Not that I need to work on my driving skill but it's him who needs to control his fear and regulate his heart beats. After that, we caught up with our friends on the way who were in other car. Then Sumit decided to drive for the rest of the entire journey.We all whooshed for the beautiful hills.

When the clock struck 5.30 AM, we were just inches away from the main spot of Nandhi hills but we could encounter the floating clouds and mist up above the sight. It was thrilling to see that. I had never walked through them. Last time when we were there, the sun was already shining in the sky and there was a warmth in the environment. No trace of mist or cold could be found that time. But this time, the scenario was reversed. The sheer imagination of walking among the clouds excited me with gust. But the road for reaching the top is quite risky. It has got high and some very high hair pin bends. There I learned that on such tricky roads, the car should be in its first gear otherwise it will be hard to drive. Thankfully I was not driving that time as the bends were highly scary to my sight.

Finally we made it to the top spot. There was such a heavy nip in the atmosphere that every single person was loaded with thermals. The weather was heavily misty. In fact, the mist was raining on us. We got wet of course as the result. Nandhi hills is prominently popular for its sunrise view but this time, there was no trace of sun. It was itself dozing heavily behind the clouds and mist. We were walking among the clouds. It was a very beautiful experience. All of us were talking and laughing. It was around 6 but it didn't feel so early as there were lots of people chattering around. Tea and dosa stalls and a single restaurant there open at 8. So sometimes you might have to curb your tea/coffee cravings.

Nandhi hills on a clear day


The curvy ramp enveloped with mist

Thursday, 5 September 2013

A Thank You note on Teachers Day


Those who educate children well are more to be honored than they who produce them; for these only gave them life, those the art of living well.
                                     
Aristotle, Philosopher 

December 5, 1962 (the birth date of Dr. Sarvapalli Radhakrishnan, a great teacher himself) marked the date to honor and respect the intricate contribution of those special people who not only educate but also create a better society and thus, a far better nation. Such special people are known as Teachers for us. 



If I recall my academic days, there comes a feeling of serenity that I got the golden chance to get educated with such teachers that not just taught me but also filled me in with high morals, socially accepted behavioral patterns and lots other elements that I still endure, I still possess. Their passion, gusto of teaching with unique patterns and the personalities they carried with them are still stamped subtly into my memories. Let me name a few of them so that I too can relish some of those beautiful memories and pay a heartily thank to them.

When I was in std. 7th and 8th, my favorite teacher was our Punjabi language teacher named as Harjeet Kaur. We, all the students, tend to call our teachers miss and sir. Harjeet miss was an ethereal beauty. She was slim, fair complexioned and had an adorable flair for teaching. She believed in teaching with fun and enjoyment. She taught with books as well as with some other fun activities. Sometimes she allowed us to play interesting games in the class so that the sincerity and the interest towards the study in the students couldn't get loosen up. She endured a beautiful smile. She taught me some manners too. I was among the best students in Punjabi. I loved the language. I was her favorite girl student. In fact she was the first person who told me that I sing really good; that I had the sweetest voice in the class. Wow! The moment was so wondrous. That day I felt really good about myself. I miss her. Later she got married and then I also moved to the other school but I still do miss her.

Wednesday, 4 September 2013

Think India Think!

I picked up the newspaper today as a daily routine. After reading first few pages when I flipped and halted on one page, not one but two news caught my attention. Such news are not new but when they make an appearance, it brings back the wave of disgust, irritation, loathe and pity to a particular section of the society.

Now to be more precise, those couple of news were about Rape; one teenage girl has been gang-raped and one photojournalist has also got raped. I have scribbled few more posts on Rape previously on my blog but as sky has no end, these rape cases too appear alike. Today again, if I dare to strain more on this Rape issue, I feel like demanding the actions on 'Where is the benefit of those protests and arson after the horrible incident of Nirbhaya (On Dec. 16th 2012)?' 'Are they dead, like Nirbhaya herself?' 'Have our laws, policemen, political figures and all the supreme authorities have chucked their conscience out of this world?' These questions may sound like a broken unusable straw in the heap of waste but these questions DO seek attention, regardless where we are and what we do!

Lately I read that Indian Juvenile Court has decided to treat the lead miscreant in Nirbhaya case, the alleged juvenile, as a minor but not as an adult. The court has punished him with measly three years of imprisonment. That means, an animal will be again free after three years to crush and crumble girls under the brutal acts of his mind. I sighed. I neither cursed nor got agitated. I just sighed. What else I could do? When the law has already abandoned the helm of justice then what can we do with holding the edge of those protests, rallies and crowd show-ups? They go in vain. It is not like India doesn't have an international example of a case when two juveniles got treated as adults in the court when they ended up torturing and murdering a toddler. This incident is true. It happened in Britain in 1993. Two juveniles, named Jon Venables and Robert Thompson, were found guilty of extreme tormenting and murdering of a toddler named James Bulger. The severity of crime was so devastating that Britain court decided to treat those juveniles as adults.

Tuesday, 3 September 2013

Are you a self-alleging-scanner?

A self alleging person would be someone who culminates a natural habit of scanning him  (or her) actions, thoughts, behavioral patterns etc. on a Right or Wrong balance scale and often finds himself drawing more on the Wrong side.




Let me make myself easier to understand via a example here. Suppose you are in a formal conversation with someone and you both are conversing in a polite manner until the other person says something bad and dismisses the chit-chat. You haven't said anything annoying or irritating yet the other person behaved badly to you. Now the thing to ponder about here is, do you blame yourself for the other person's ill attitude despite you said nothing bad? Do you think you should have said your already innocuous matter in a different manner so that the other person wouldn't get annoy with you? If you are nodding your head silently at either or both of the questions above then you naturally fall under the category of Self-alleging-scanner; a person who keeps weighing himself and blames his attitude for anything that goes wrong around him.

It is, as natural and as clear as the water, definitely not a commendable thing to act towards yourself. Thing happens. Things go either right or wrong and sometimes both of them. Things keep flowing but letting yourself trap into the blame-game isn't a good idea. It can take a toll onto your attitude, your lifestyle, your actions i.e. on your entire personality altogether.

Life isn't easy but don't make it tougher with such indictment habit. Let's check out what you can do to break free of this self-alleging-scanner so that you can breathe a fresh whiff of life.

Stop scanning yourself for other's fault

First and the foremost, stop scanning and blaming yourself for whatever wrong has happened around you. If something has really gone wrong because of you then you are liable to blame yourself but not for those things who are not under your feet to crush for. It's simple. If you don't take credit for if something struck right then how come you have attained a habit of blaming yourself for something wrong? You don't have and frankly I don't think that you will ever have a tight grip on the every situation around.

Sunday, 1 September 2013

One more day off

How strong and how often do YOU crave for one more piece of chocolate after finishing a whole pack already? I don't know about you but I surely know myself at this front. And the answer is...Badly! I'd love to have one more piece of my favorite chocolate even after finishing a whole pack.

The same way, sitting on my couch, working cozily on my tomato colored laptop, with a nip in the air and on the top of it all, having my sweet husband beside me is incredulously making me desire for one more off day. Today is Sunday and the first day of September of this year. Our weekend went good. Saturday was packed with some bank stuff and then lunch at one of the malls. We tried Starke's in Garuda mall, Magrath Road and I must admit, it was the complete waste of money. We had burger, fries and Veg. nuggets but taste couldn't woo us even for a second. Anyway, good or bad, both mealtimes happen and it was just one of those later cases.

Today, we all got up late in the morning (As I have already mentioned it earlier, I am not an early bird at all. I love sleeping till late in the mornings). I had already made arrangements for today's breakfast last night itself so the breakfast turned out a real quikie. It was delicious. We all loved and enjoyed it.

Then we chatted, watched TV and lazed around. Didn't want to go anywhere. Then I made lunch. Our son got his hair cut done (Oh! It was so required). We all had lunch afterwards and slept like a dead horse till the evening. In the evening we had some snacks. Thereupon, we went out for some work at 7.30 and returned at 10.45 at night. Whoaa!! It was a much longer stay out than I had expected. We had dinner outside.

Now that the weather is lovely and rainy, I feel strongly for the coming Monday to turn into some impromptu holiday. Make it a bank holiday or dropped-from-the-sky holiday or some puja holiday or or anything. I don't care but I crave for one more day rest. Alas! I wish the wishes could be true the moment we ask for them!! But now let me hit my sac. See ya'll tomorrow.

Good night world. Sleep tight and dream bright.










Friday, 30 August 2013

"I am giving you The Iron Woman" :D

This, rather a funny anecdote, happened last Sunday. I was ironing some cloths at home. Nearby were my husband and son playing together. Our son, Ashmit, was getting hyper to watch Iron Man but neither of us were allowing him to do so. The onset of fictitious characters like Iron Man, Spiderman, Batman, Captain America, the concoction saga of all the super heroes The Avengers etc. have made watching movies a frenzy, frantic dose of a mania that can never be effective in any way for the children. Kids just can't stop watching them over and over again. There may happen the possibility of them to hop on the back seat after a while but their sequels never allow them to do so. We have to control their exposure towards the cinema lest they will end fantasizing more about these flicks instead of their priceless future. I am not being unfavorable for the movies but I am certainly not in the favor of their over dose either.

Anyway, so Ashmit was being stubborn about watching Iron Man 2 (though he has already watched it if not for once but for ten times if I am to say the truth). I was busy ironing cloths and Sumit was handling him by offering him some other board games. This incessant 'Yes-No' was going since a while. But Ashmit was stuck to his desire.

When Sumit couldn't get him convinced, he calmly said,

"So you wanna watch Iron Man...haan?" and then pointing towards me, he further added,

"I am giving you The Iron Woman. If I was ironing the cloths, I'd be The Iron Man. So happy now?"

My hands stopped ironing and my eyes darted towards his direction. Needless to say, I was highly amused and bemused simultaneously by the creative on spot narration of his entire new version of Iron Man and this time, Iron Woman too along!

Ashmit and I both paused for a second and then burst out into laughter. The laughter did the trick and this way, Sumit managed to get his son agreed for the board games.



Thursday, 29 August 2013

A call for the parent intervention

Few days back, a very sensitive issue happened. This issue was one of those calls that needs to be addressed with 'Proper attention' and 'Appropriate handling'.

So the moment happened like this. Our son was downstairs, playing with his two friends. One of his friend is little elder to him. Let's name that elder boy A. So, like other usual days, my son was playing with his friends next to my house on a gigantic sand heap. Actually, there is a construction work going on next to my building and the sand heap is poured down there for the process. It was an off day for my husband. Thus, we were doing some work at home. After a while, our son came and said that A has behaved ill towards him and then he explained. A indeed had done something that can not be counted as a normal behavior towards the other child.

Instantly I and my husband got worried. I got angry on the spot but my husband placated me. I was angry because while playing, kids should be well behaved especially towards others. They should not harm others or do such thing that is beyond the play time etiquette. I immediately told my husband to go over to meet A and solve the issue. Make him understand that such behavior will never be accepted. But he refused. He said,

"I will talk to him but not now. Wait for the appropriate time". I shook my head as I was still fuming. Thereupon, we directed our son to go to A and tell him to say sorry as he had done something wrong. He followed. When A said sorry to him, I calmed down nonetheless I had already decided to talk to A personally, not because I was holding any grudge against him but as a parent. The issue was the sure call of parent intervention. Gradually my anger found its ground and got buried. I was no more an angry mother.